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Something has recently occurred in the blog world that's compelled me to talk about it here . . .

 

About a month or so ago I got a comment on my blog from somebody named "Nora" asking me to visit her blog.  A bit of an unusual request, as normally people just leave a comment and leave it up to the blogger to visit them in return or not.  But I decided to pay her a visit.  Her blog is named "Code Name Nora"......She tells us she's an 80 year old woman who recently moved into a retirement facility and she's going to be blogging about her day to day escapades living there.  Because she's also mentioning other residents she informs the reader that "Nora" is a fictitious name.  Okay.  So far I'm hooked.  So I begin to read.

 

Good writing.  Darn good writing.  Humorous and entertaining.  But by the fourth or fifth entry something isn't "sitting" right with me.  Call it instinct, call it foolishness.....but definitely call it suspicion on my part.  Despite the talent of the writer, she didn't "sound" like an 80 year woman living in a retirement facility.  It could be because I visited a million of those facilities doing nursing visits.  It could be because I've attended too many writers conferences and learned about "voice" for a writer.  I admit, "voice" isn't easy to define but you read it, you know it.  It rings true.  The author might be a 40 year old, yet the "voice" of the teen telling the story is on the mark.  The author captured the "voice."  For me....while Nora is a good writer.....the "voice" didn't feel right.  Also, I found it a bit odd that she wasn't looking for more friends via other blogs, nor looking to read more elder readers. No.  She was looking for more readers to her blog.

 

What it felt like to me was somebody.....male, female, young, old, who knows......writing chapters for a potential fiction novel.  Nothing wrong with that, except.......this Nora has visited other blogs looking for recognition and more readers to her blog.  She managed to catch the eye of Ronni Bennett on Times Goes By and Ronni listed her in the blogroll on her side bar.  A few more bloggers began to question the legitimacy of "Nora."  And apparently somebody emailed Ronni to question her integrity by listing somebody of dubious elder authenticity......to which Ronni replied with a post of her own.  She also quoted my comments that I'd left on Nora's blog and gave the reader the feeling "what did it matter."  What did it matter if this Nora isn't who she says she is.  She provides good reading, entertainment, etc.  True.

 

Except.....I don't totally agree.  Especially not in today's world.  We're lied to constantly.  From the White House, to politicians, to advertisers, to our friends, and on and on.  Society has become a crowd of people avoiding the truth.  We're told there's weapons of mass destruction in Iraq, the President says we must start a war.......and like sheep, America nods her head and says okay.  Well, we all know how that ended up.  As for me.....I'm tired of the lying.  And yes, this Nora could BE an 80 year old lady in a retirement home.  Of course she could be.  I just don't happen to think she is.

 

As a writer, I know how very difficult it is to "make it" in this industry.  By that I mean obtaining a top agent and top publisher to consider your work and then go on to publish it.  Having talent?  Doesn't mean a thing in this industry.  Having a "gimmick?"  That could help a lot.  Agents peruse blogs looking for fresh, untapped, talent.  Word of mouth is everything in this business.  Anybody recall Petite Anglaise?  She's the British young woman from England that moved to Paris 10 years ago, got a lover, had a little girl with said lover, started a blog......and made the mistake (which turned out to be a blessing in disguise for her) of mentioning her boss on her blog.  She was fired from her job.  She sued the company. (and won) BUT......somebody, somewhere, read that blog.  She was a good writer.  Had talent and NOW........she got noticed!  Her book will be released by a top NYC publisher in 2008.  The rest is history.  Are you getting my drift here?

 

But Petite Anglaise didn't fool us readers with WHO she was.....we might not have known her real name, but we knew she was a 30-something woman from England, living in Paris, raising a daughter on her own.  Her "voice" rang true with each and every blog entry.  For me......Nora's does not.

 

And so.....whether Nora is for real or not, my problem isn't with "Nora."  My unsettled feeling is all about honesty.  In the meantime, she's getting herself some notoriety.  If that's what she set out to do.....then I'd say she accomplished it.

 

Just my opinion.  See you here next time........

 

 

 

Posted on Wednesday, December 19, 2007 at 06:00AM by Registered CommenterTerri DuLong in , | Comments8 Comments

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Reader Comments (8)

Yes I agree, I don't like to be lied to. If the person is upfront in the beginning then I make up my own mind whether to continue the 'relationship'. I use to be very naive when I was younger and believed what people said. Now-a-days, after getting 'stung' I don't believe in everyone. Which is a shame but the way of the world now.
December 19, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJoyce
Hello,

Sorrry if I'm veering off topic here but just wanted to thank you for stopping by and wishing us a Merry Christmas at the Scottie News. The same to you and yours.

Re Nora,it wounds like that coice thing is going to be a real problem if so many readers don't think it's authentic.

December 19, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDog Lady
Sometimes it is hard to spot a 'phoney'. I once had a comment on my blog which started with ... "If you are who you say you are" .
December 19, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJohn
The very nature of the internet makes it vulnerable to liars, braggarts and thieves. One must always be cautious and take things with a grain of salt. If this "Nora" has mislead people, she will be outed in the end, and what she was trying to achieve may turn into something she did not expect.
December 19, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMaureen
When I used to go to chat rooms, I ran into the 'fraud' element. There were a lot of them. the worst was a man who claimed to be hunchback and talked of how he couldn't go out during the day as he would be assaulted by kids making fun of him. He might have done it for sympathy or maybe it was funny to him. I didn't find it humorous when I learned. To me whether we use a pseudonym or our real name, if we are writing fiction, it should be states it's fiction. I saw Nora's blog after Ronni wrote about her but I don't have an opinion on whether it's for real or not as I skimmed it that day but it was of no interest to me. She could indeed be after a book deal and a lot do fraudulent work even there but claim it's memoirs. Since I only have a few blogs I read regularly, yours being one of them, I am not wanting to find new ones anyway but if I did, I'd want the person to be who they claimed.
December 19, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterRain
Yes, I too absolutely agree with you Terri. It's about putting one's cards on the table and thus enabling the others to make a choice. The attraction and charm of blogs is just the fact that there's a real life with real people, talking about it and sharing it with others. If one is writing fiction then it should be labelled as such. In fact that's one of basics of life, in my view, at least a life that I want.
December 20, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterBrigitte
Brilliantly stated, Terri! And I appreciate the thoughtful comments as well. I just wish everyone who's been reading all the hoopla could read this post, including Ronni herself. There should be no misrepresenting the doubters as "mean" and inconsiderate if she would.
December 21, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAlice
I appreciate that if I disagree you have given me the right to say so in your blog intro. I do disagree. Hub always says you cannot even think accusatory thoughts, much less speak them, without hard evidence. And with that thought in mind, I have seen nothing on Nora's blog hurtful or demeaning to anyone. Even if it is a false personna, it demeans no one.

If I was Nora, an 80-some year old, and 'real' (a possibility that no one I've encountered can positively deny), and writing about my experiences, I can't even imagine how sad and pained I'd feel to read this discussion. And I see nothing suspicious about blogger's reaching out for more readers rather than 2-way interchanges -- that what's the more ego-centric do, (might even be the reason in my subconcious mind that I'm here) or the ones that have so much yet to say and because of advanced age, so little time to say it.

I remember reading an obit for an odd character that used to walk aimlessly about town. His memorial was "We laughed at him because he was different, he laughed at us because we were the same."

Nora might be different, with her peculiar voice, and peculiar approach, but maybe that is just Nora -- the different one. I'm not eighty yet, but her writing voice certainly strums a familiar chord with my own.
December 21, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterRoberta S

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